Priorities for the modern day woman.
I have been having a hard time of it lately. Not gutt-wrenchingly bad. Just difficult. I find it difficult to stick to my resolve to prioritise my life and activities as I believe God is leading me to. After reading Elizabeth George’s book, I found myself confronted with a “List of Priorities” that knocked my socks off. Was it possible to prioritise my life so simply and live a more satisfying life?
Accorging to Mrs. George, my chief duties, or grand pursuits are (in order of prominence, and preference!):
- To love and pursue God.
- Loving, helping and serving my husband.
- Loving, helping and serving our 3.5 year old bundle of blessing.
- Loving and caring for my home (with the focus on creating a high-quality of life experience for my family).
- Developing myself so that I have something to give to others.
- Loving and serving God’s people.
Taken from E George’s “A Woman after God’s Own Heart”.
But now I regularly find myself standing in conflict with the world. The harder I attempt to follow-through on my list of priorities, the more resistence I encounter. A typical scenario would be where I decide not to meet a friend for coffee because it would be to difficult to juggle the coffee date and be on-time to pick-up our SuperStar from school. Another would be, when given the opportunity, to rather spend time at home with my SAMM than to entertain friends.
But it has been hard. I am social by nature and with an added element of OCD-people-pleasing, I often used to find myself overcommitting to social engagements. And I end up feeling bad…
Let go of the guilt.
“Your priority is not to keep everyone else in your life happy by doing all the things they expect; it is to live a life that is pleasing to God and one that you can enjoy.
Too many people are not living their dreams because they are living their fears. In other words, instead of doing things out of their heart, they do them because they are afraid of what will happen if they don’t. “Someone will get angry! I will get left out! People will talk about me!” It is time that you started being the person you really want to be. It is time to reach for your dreams.” Joyce Meyer – Taken from “Confident Woman Devotional”.
My theory is…
that, despite growth pains; my friend, family and colleagues will learn to trust the new “system”. They will learn that I am still committed to each of them despite a shift in focus and priority.
Hopefully they will also take comfort in the knowledge that I now sincerely spend time with them out of desire (NOT guilt) when we do make the time.
“Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires and secret petitions of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord [roll and repose each care of your load on Him]; trust (lean on, rely on, and be confident) also in Him and He will bring it to pass. And He will make your uprightness and right standing with God go forth as the light, and your justice and right as [the shining sun of] the noonday.”
Ps 37:4-6 AMP
Thanks for sharing my Cuppa and good luck with your priorities ;)