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On friendship

On friendship

Everyone of us wants to both have good and great friends and I am sure that you, like me, want to be a great friend. Every friend is a blessing in their own right as they encourage, support, comfort, tolerate and council us. I have been blessed with a variety of friends – some ranging from acquintances through casual & close friends to those special few that are my “soul-sisters”. They are the ones that stick it out in the toughest of circumstances. They are the ones that listen to my heart and probably most importantly, they are the ones that offer honest, sincere advice and comfort.

In our friendships – especially the close, intimate ones – we should make it our priority to be:

  1. Honest. Surely we don’t always WANT to hear the truth but who better to hear it from than a friend that loves you and has your best interests at heart? In a world filled with polite lies, kind untruths and superficial chit-chat I am desperate for soul-sisters who will speak into my life with authority and love.
  2. Available. Crisis can be any number of things for different people. Whatever the need, I want to be available when the call comes through. In times of need we have an exciting and important opportunity to offer council, advice and encouragement to our friends. During times of fighting and anger we can encourage and support their marriages. When there is conflict and frustration we can encourage, comfort and affirm our friends in their role as parents. When faced with difficult decisions, we are called to be the patient ear that listens and guides. I don’t presume to be all-wise and -knowing BUT it is exceptionally important to me that each of recognize and step into our role as a confidante. Each of us can make a difference, if only we would be more willing to step and act with integrity and boldness as Jesus inspires us.
  3. Encouraging. We are each called to relate to our “sisters” in a deep and meaningful way. I don’t know about you but I DESPERATELY want deeper relationships. REAL relationships. I WANT friends who will challenge me to spend time seeking Jesus. I WANT friends who will pray WITH and FOR me. I WANT friends who will gently nudge when I am hestitant to step where God is calling me. I WANT friends who will believe that I can always be greater and better than I already am.

And I WANT to be that friend to some. I want to be more than superficial coffee-house chats. I want to offer more than thin smiles and empty words. I want to promise my best and I want to DELIVER.

There are “friends” who destroy each other,
but a real friend sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24 NLT)

Thank you, friend, for sharing my cuppa with me today.

Power of our thoughts

Power of our thoughts

A new mind.

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. (Rom 12:2 NLT)

Changing thoughts.

I am well versed in the dialogue of womanhood. I over-analyze, I interpret (and misinterpret!) I suppose and I ponder and I think and think and think. What if she said that to mean this? What if he did that because he wanted me to know this? Why, did she do / say that? And all of this amateur pscyho-analyzing leaves me exhausted, suspicious and often negative.

But the promise of Romans 12:2 says to me (and you) that we don’t have to allow our thoughts to rule us. We don’t have to get sucked into negative thinking patterns. We can change this negative behaviour, simply by handing our thoughts over to God. He can change each of us.

Let’s try to rework our thoughts by:

  • Switching from negative self-talk to thankful joy (i.e. Instead of the why, how and what questions we are so fond of – “Thank you Lord for x and x and x”. 
  • Asking God to change your thoughts, to renew your mind and to focus your thinking on His will and purpose for you.
  • Use your mind as a valuable resource. Read, learn, think, create and grow in areas where you experience positive energy and affirmation. Spend more time learning and growing and less time pondering and wondering.

Thanks for sharing my cuppa with me today :)

Deeper connections - what to say - how to say it - be heard

with author, speaker, & trainer, Nina Roesner

Peaceful Wife

Become Empowered, Healed, and Confident in Christ

With a Cuppa Coffee

Hearty chats for women about this, that and whatnot.