Everyone of us wants to both have good and great friends and I am sure that you, like me, want to be a great friend. Every friend is a blessing in their own right as they encourage, support, comfort, tolerate and council us. I have been blessed with a variety of friends – some ranging from acquintances through casual & close friends to those special few that are my “soul-sisters”. They are the ones that stick it out in the toughest of circumstances. They are the ones that listen to my heart and probably most importantly, they are the ones that offer honest, sincere advice and comfort.
In our friendships – especially the close, intimate ones – we should make it our priority to be:
- Honest. Surely we don’t always WANT to hear the truth but who better to hear it from than a friend that loves you and has your best interests at heart? In a world filled with polite lies, kind untruths and superficial chit-chat I am desperate for soul-sisters who will speak into my life with authority and love.
- Available. Crisis can be any number of things for different people. Whatever the need, I want to be available when the call comes through. In times of need we have an exciting and important opportunity to offer council, advice and encouragement to our friends. During times of fighting and anger we can encourage and support their marriages. When there is conflict and frustration we can encourage, comfort and affirm our friends in their role as parents. When faced with difficult decisions, we are called to be the patient ear that listens and guides. I don’t presume to be all-wise and -knowing BUT it is exceptionally important to me that each of recognize and step into our role as a confidante. Each of us can make a difference, if only we would be more willing to step and act with integrity and boldness as Jesus inspires us.
- Encouraging. We are each called to relate to our “sisters” in a deep and meaningful way. I don’t know about you but I DESPERATELY want deeper relationships. REAL relationships. I WANT friends who will challenge me to spend time seeking Jesus. I WANT friends who will pray WITH and FOR me. I WANT friends who will gently nudge when I am hestitant to step where God is calling me. I WANT friends who will believe that I can always be greater and better than I already am.
And I WANT to be that friend to some. I want to be more than superficial coffee-house chats. I want to offer more than thin smiles and empty words. I want to promise my best and I want to DELIVER.
There are “friends” who destroy each other,
but a real friend sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24 NLT)
Thank you, friend, for sharing my cuppa with me today.