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What the Bible teaches on being a wife.

(Not lost but) Found in translation!

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The Bible – our source of truth, guidance and counsel.

Life giving words

The Bible has so much to teach us. It speaks to us as women, wives, mothers, friends. You name it, it is there. The work for us is to make sure that we don’t skim over the verses we have already committed to heart or that we by nature just frequent our favourites.

The Bible offers us wise counsel against which all other advice needs to be checked.

A perspective on translation…

Here’s a favourite of mine from Ephesians:

” So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Eph 5:33 NLT

compare that with the refreshing new insight offered when we read the same in a different translation:

“However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. Eph 5:33 AMP

Aren’t you getting even a little excited by the Word today? I am! I find myself looking at a “familiar” piece of scripture and seeing a whole new picture.

We are to:

  • Notice our husbands. Look at him, make eye contact and notice what he does for you / your home / your children. Don’t take for granted that he has a job and can provide for you (even if you want more, be thankful for what it is there currently!).
  • Regard him. Have concern for him.
  • Honour him. Bestow honour to and abide by his leadership in your home and family.
  • Prefer him. Have your heart beat for him! Make an effort to light your fire today. Don’t be tempted by relationships & comforts outside of your marriage.
  • Venerate him. Hold him in awe. Remember that our opinion matters to our husbands. Even if it doesn’t feel true to you at this point, make an effort to acknowledge him and comment on his strengths.
  • Esteem him. Regard your husband with respect. Value your husband. Even when it feels like the furthest thing from the truth. Declare and pray truths over him and look to all that could be instead of complaining about what isn’t there.
  • Defer to him. Be willing to accept and act on his wishes. True, I believe that we should contribute to decisions in the home and family but equally important is the need to know when to keep quiet and stop nagging. If you want him to be a leader for you family, you have to be willing to follow!
  • Praise him. Fill his love tank today. Send a short message to say “thank you” and comment on any act or word that has made a difference to you. Let him know that you are aware.
  • Love him. Profoundly care for, desire and be dedicated to. I am sure I can leave the details to you??
  • Admire him EXCEEDINGLY! Look at him with EXCEEDINGLY levels of delight. Remember when you were dating? Remember the butterflies, the excitement at the prospect of a meeting or call? Look at the best in him today, remind yourself and him of those outstanding qualities and you will probably find yourself become EXCEEDINGLY more excited as his return from work draws near.

And all of this from a portion of scripture that I had thought I knew.

Avoid complacency

both in when studying the Word of God and in your marriage.

Look at your husband with renewed eyes and find a way today to respect and love your partner as God wants you to!

Many many blessings for you.

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Be Encouraged!

I am not sure where you are sitting but it is a very chilly morning in South Africa. The wind is cutting through jersey and jacket and the world has that beautiful winter glow about it. A warm, steaming Cuppa is just what is needed.

I want to talk about Forgiveness and Conflict Resolution during our time together this week but before we jump into any of that I want to encourage you.

From the Word…

“The faithful love of the LORD never ends! His mercies never cease.Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning. I say to myself, “The LORD is my inheritance; therefore, I will hope in him!” Lam 3:22-24 NLT

Wherever this scripture finds you, I hope it breathes life and hope and strength into your day and your week. I hope that you are reminded that we are called to be women, wives, mothers and friends by a mighty Saviour God that promises to give us the strength to walk where He leads us. I pray that you and I will each make time to sit at His feet and refresh ourselves before we begin to love, serve and honour our husbands, children, families and friends. I hope that you will be freshly awakened to the restoration, peace and love that Jesus offers.

“For the LORD your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.” Zep 3:17 NLT

Lord Jesus, I pray that you would awaken every woman’s heart to Your call and Your purpose. Thank You that I can take refuge and respite in You, because you know exactly where I am today. Lord, thank You for the encouragement and hope that Your Word offers. Your words make me vibrant, alive and energized! Be my portion Lord as I seek You – not only Your hands that offer blessings and provision but also Your face. I desperately want to know you Lord. Thank Lord, that I can put my hope and trust in You completely because You are steadfast, secure and Your love is endless and unfailing! Amen.

Thanks for sharing my Cuppa today!

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